Showing posts with label Instincts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Instincts. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Good Bye, 52B/8 Brindavan!!

There are few words in life which I never ever like using nor thinking about. One of such words is "Good bye"...Its so powerful a word that it leaves you in a very heavy state and in not such a good feeling.

Time has come for me to move on and this moving on had been pretty fast and often, offlate. In the past 2 weeks I had to leave a lot of things that have been very dear to me and today its the turn of "Brindavan" ( Place where I had been put up for the last 2 and 1/2 years). I am sure that it's one of the nicest and close to my heart "home away from home". All the moments spent here would be cherished in the days to come. The four walls here have seen my highs and lows over past two years and have been able to give me a lot of solace which I needed. My passing phase and transitioning into a grown up(If one may call me;) happened in a wonderful way. Like meeting the nasty neighbours yet finding very close family frens in the opposite house. The balance sheet of life was in balance here :) Ofcourse the amazing times I had with my roomys and frens being in this place can never be forgotten.

As my wedding is due in the coming month, I have to vacate this place by month end and would be in transit (in my frens place) starting tomorrow until I reach my destination ;) :) Well....Its not even 10 days that I wrote a " bye bye" to Target , my first project, my base branch - karapakkam, the amazing frens I made there, I am here saying Good bye to Brindavan.
I am forced to use a Good bye in case of Brindavan cos I know these moments are never going to reoccur nor can be relived. All I can feel good about is that they are an inseperable part of me and my life and they would be treasured.
If anyone would ask me what would be the toughest part in life - It would be to shed and move on. Few passing thoughts sitting under the roof of 52B/8 now:) I shall miss you :(:( Ahhhh, more to follow.....

~$,30/07/08,11:00pm

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Living in "Namma" Chennai...

I still remember the day when I knew I was posted in Chennai TCS more than five years ago , I never had the faintest clue as to what enchanting chapters were to unfold....Truly Chennai had been home away from home since the time I left Vizag, my parents, family and frens and beyond doubts I can say my face just lits up with the mention of this city..:):) People even mock that I became a Tamizh ponnu having come here...

I am just wondering where to start from if I have to write about this city and the moments experienced here? The unforgettable Anna nagar West and the Mullai (Jasmine) colony where I was put up first when I landed here with loads of aspirations afresh from TCS ILP Trivandrum....Met great people at every juncture, be it be the teams I worked with or the frens I made here or even the localites I interacted with. The great times I had at Sholinganallur TCS office, the culturals and interests I was all over into made me relive my college days and the great frens made there is really memorable....Above everything else, it's the city that gave me my first and only bread and butter :):)

There is an unsaid chemistry I associate with this place till date. It cannot be singled to any particular place, person or thing. Probably all that comes as a package living here. The striking love of me towards the city is probably the musical vibrations I hear here.....This was my first and foremost alluring fact being a person new to the city way 5 years back.

I have heard umpteen biases from my family and many frens of mine as to how rigid the city and the life here is.....Water vows in Summers, Absence of night life, extreme love towards their native language, bossy and looting "Auto kaar" of Chennai and the list goes on.....Somehow biases never touch me.....I really go deaf when people try to tell me the Do's and Don't about anything for that instance. Guess that's a boon I have and so surely the above said -tivities dint bother me much in due course.
On a lighter note, Water vows disappeared as thanks to the regular monsoons since my arrival here; Music and Auto kaar became my inspiration to learn the language so that I could fight with them well on every extra buck charged :):) Infact I have tried educating many of them in Tamizh (needless to say its fun thru out:))))
Ohhh.....The jasmine fragrance that fills the streets of Chennai anyday and any part of the year can never be found anywhere else. List doesn't end there........:):) The octagenerians whom you see toddlling steadily and slowly towards a temple in the evening while getting back from work...Where else can you see such a wonderful sight?? I am sure I am missing out on many more trivias like this which I relished...

I always felt it takes lot of energy to be a fanatic about one's culture, language and its really a boon that this city and its people have the guts and patience in preserving their culture when rest of the world is mad after westernizing. I dont say I am not modern or I do everything as per ancestral books but I just love Chennai for this very fact of staying closer to nativity.

The long term assignment took me to Minneapolis and when I returned it was not Sholinganallur but had to report back to Karapakkam, RTSC office where I got into a little identity crisis. All new faces, new branch and I felt I almost lost my active groove which I had left year and half back. Then there was a pretty low and mundane half year's time where I dint do much other than to get engrossed into work.

Then slowly and steadily I found my groove back with my parallel interests kicking off along with work and living in Besant nagar surpassed everything else. We found 52B/8 Brindavan and that was it. What an enchanting time we had here......The long beach walks, sunrises and sunsets along the beach, coffee and dark choco temptation @Barista, the favorite hanging outs - like cake walk choco pastries, B'bay bhaiyya's chappal shop, Meetha paan ki dukaan and umpteen eat joints we have relsihed over past 2 and 1/2 years.....More than anything else the amazing balcony of 52B/8 Brindavan's is just unforgettable. How I love to sit in the balcony sit out on a full moon day humming my favorite song and eating my dinner. Its just inseperable part of me whereever life would take me in future....

Wondering why I chose Living in Chennai as the subject for the day...Yeah a small insecurity and nostalgia that had already crept inside me that I would have to soon move on from here..:):):) Sometimes I wonder if chennaites love this city as much as I do he he he ....My parents and dear ones would kill me for this over statement :):)

~$,07/10/08, 10:00pm

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

All in Pink.....!!

" Its simple things in life that fill us with joy"...
As simple as a caring word, a smile or a positive thought. This one line holds good for me on most of the days but not all days are same. When I say simple things fill us with us joy, even the converse also equally holds good (as far as I am concerned:) A frown, an annoying word or a brief silence from expected quarters can put you OFF easily.

Hmm...I woke up after a nice long cozy sleep last night and 8 hours of sound sleep doesn't seemed to be enuf. All dressed in pink I set out of my home, locked the door and was all set to rushing to the bus. I bumped into someone who walked past me on steps and stopped me with a wierd question. On being stopped, I felt like coming out of my lazy cozy cocoon of thoughts and actually noticed that an elderly uncle like figure asking me as to why we donot switch ON the common light in the corridor. I was annoyed as to what has it to do with this person who out of blue is questioning me? I dont even know who stay in our apartment complex cos I feel this is one of the worst apartment complexes I ever came across..People are so rigid, ruthless and never spared we gals for anything. I have great respect for elders until I met this neighbour's family of mine who is as aged as my dad but has shown how one can act if sanity is not in place. He(with his wife) fights/yells at us for just keeping the trashbox a little longer infront of our door in our common space for getting it cleared.

Huhh...we have really had a bad patch with this family next to us and interestingly have working daughters as aged as we are and inspite of that fact were never considerate with us. All others in the complex know how much patience we hav shown in putting up with this family. They carry frowns always ( seeing our smiling faces) and always create probs not just for us but everyone else in the block.... After having known their mindset, I dont even feel they are worth my glance or thought. So it had been IGNORE button as far as they are concerned.
So this uncle who stopped me this morning was so rude in his way of questioning that it had instantly put me OFF badly. To my surprise, I was really intimidated by his authority in tone that I couldnot even answer him back. Somehow I escaped from that scene and reached my bus stop scurrying only to know that I misplaced my mobile pouch which is like a mini handbag for me in all this hungama. My head went blank as soon as I realized it. I frantically searched all around if I had dropped it anywhere....Alas!!!
I saw my bus coming but had to skip to walk back home to fetch my very favorite pouch which carried loads of money (which I always do:)), debit card and identity cards and few important contacts. My day wudnt surely have been pink if I had lost it :) I have to mention here about my forgetfulness and ofcourse my amazing track record of losing out things which is unbeaten till date due to my hyper and hasty self. Mom is so much worried about this aspect of me and have got enuf blastings but habits die hard:)
I was jsut praying to god that it shud be there at my doorstep. I cursed for having such a bad morning right at the start of the day and was elated to find it where I left.....A breather...!!!


With a little lightened heart I took the auto to office lost in thoughts on various things happening and silence from few of my people. I was just hoping my day turns out better and it actually did. Inspite of having a very busy day, I was pretty engrossed in work after a long time with Music ON and listening to the english song from "Micheal learns to rock".....Awesome song of the day which elated my spirits thru out and my day did really turn pinkkk......I passed all my pink thoughts to my dear ones too and came back home to celebrate the busy and pink day with a Veg paes pulaooo....:)) You see how the mix of simple things play with you hide n seek in either ways.

And yeah the same neighbour of mine had organized a function on account of his daughter's wedding which called for litting the entire apartment complex. It was an awesome view from my balcony toh we have not been invited ha ha :) Never knew biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig people can be so kiddish, harsh and can get ruthless on a trash box....Few poeple in this world are wierd and beyond my contemplation cos as per me no mistake in this world is so big that it cant be forgiven :)
On this note, a great quote which is one of my personal favorites -
" Forgiveness is the flower which leaves its fragrance on the heel that crushes it"...

Isnt it just wonderful?!?! :)) So Forgive & Forget to be in pink always...;))))

~$,06/10/08, 11:00 pm

Sunday, April 27, 2008

**Happiness Quotient**

"What is it in the world that can make one independent of emotions and be happy in relationships?? "

Quite a Question that has left many Titans dumbstruck and brought on heels. Often in relationships, one tends to go overboard and depend too much emotionally on partners. Above everything else, I feel happines purely lies in one's own hands of tuning their mind than to search for it in a particular person or attach it to something that's dear. Is it that simple a choice?? A little insight ...

Often it so happens that we never remain happy with what we have in life. God has given us this amazing Life which in its own way is a wonderful thing . You are not born handicapped like thousands, You are sane (atleast most of the times:) with few grey cells on your head , You are brought up with great values and you are leading a comfortable life meeting your ends quite well. But humans..!!! I tell you.....and thier discontent!!!

They always look around for those petty things that are imperfect and tend to brood over it. I wonder if its the devilish subconscious mind at work that derives a pshychotic pleasure in learning and feeling that there are imperfections around. Its sure that this subconscious mind would damn get tuned with -vity over a period of time. And by doing so, we by CHOICE bring in gloom into our lives ourselves.
Thats exactly where, one's sane mind has to take control on this insane component and chuck out all that's -ve. Rationalise what 's best in keeping up the relationship than accumulating -tivity. I know its not all that easy as just saying it:)

Precisely when it comes to dear ones, rather than looking at the good things and being +ve, we tend to micro manage emotions by thinking overboard on -ves. So many many of us tend to do the same thing over and over again. I wouldnt mind confessing myself that after having a post mortem of my overboard emotions at times millions of times, I tend to think and behave the same nasty way. Huhhh!! Once this process becomes a habit, you are gone for good since habits die hard, my dear!!

We forget that it can be dealt altogether in a different way. By understanding the imperfections and accepting the way things are makes life a lot more simpler and easy. This acceptance is what probably one calls getting matured from being an amatuer. OR is it that when you get matured over age, you start accepting?? Uff....Tough equations of life which I never try to solve!!:))) And if you try to add the planetary differences ( I meant the gender biases and thier shortcomings), it would be the complex equation than laplace on your plate :)

But on second thoughts now, is it really worth counselling and consoling ourselves to accept the shortcoming of the other by rationalising and reasoning? I mean, C'mon , we have one life and cant we really do something to actually feel happy by a little change than consoling happiness. Afterall, not all days u can be rational and sensible and keep accepting.

So that's where the other side of the story starts. Emotionally detaching ourselves to one's imperfections and tuning away ourselves to even nasty/bad things around also is not the only route to happiness. It would be, at the end of day, cheating ourselves and camouflage one's own self which may again in long run have impact on the relationship.


None can deny the fact that there are umpteen instances where few ( inafct many:) imperfections (which are primarily the cause for contradictions) can be fine tuned. I cant understand why each shows an inertia to change. This is a MUST parallel track that has to run simultaneously to what I said above. Some amount of effort has to go in by both partners in working out on these imperfections cos we want to be really happy at the end of the day rather than consoling ourselves that we are happy, right?? Its not about "making" happiness but feeling that "feeling of happiness" from within. Complicated haan?!?!

A heavy topic for today after having seen so many dearones around in pain at times. Thought of finding an answer by a little data mining in my warehoused head:) Great learning for you and me being a part of a world thats closely entangled with a web of emotions and relationships.

So people who read thru this, Are you anywhere near????;))) Drop in your valuable comments for sure to enliven and enlighten souls around.....:)) White papers are also invited ha ha ha

~$,28/04/08, 11:00 am



Tuesday, April 1, 2008

On Wheels!!

Have been on a traveling spree for 3 weeks now. Mid March was spent in Bangalore, Week next in Madhurai and the Latest one in Hyderabad....Anticipating the next one to be in Coimbatore on an official trip....!! Truly a taxing month this March had been and probably explains why there was very lil activity here. Hardly had any time to sit back, relax and spend a lazy weekend.
I have grown up believing in a myth since childhood that whatever one does on the very first day of the year, they continue to do the same or it automatically happens thruout the year. This myth was so strongly placed in my mind, that I had always planned my new year pretty special and dreaming of doing best things so that whole year turns out rosy...;)
This new year, forcibly I had to spend the evening in a train while getting back from my home town and probably my myth is turning out to be very true....!! Atleast first three months went on wheels with lot of traveling within city and states too...:-)
Ohh now when I think of it , fate has been so very harsh!! How I wish now to have travelled with a handsome hunk in the same train ;)
Read a great quote today : This is the day when one is reminded of what they are on the other 364 days..:-)

Since you reached here reading thru, Happy B'Day!! :-)

~$,01/04/08,11:30pm

Thursday, February 14, 2008

@@When Love is in air@@

I hardly had anytime to breathe ...!!:-) No. not cos of the uncountable roses that I received (virtual I mean:-) but a creatively taxing activity that kept me v v busy thru this week. Thankfully it also helped me to not end this day in discontentment for not receiving that "One'" rose from "The" one..;))) Anyways, a whole bunch of 60 brains creative effort and one weeks untiring enthusiasm energised and synergised the whole Team for this big event coming up tomorrow...

So here I am ending my day, unlike many others today, with a really bad throat, cough and lil fever but spirits really really unconquered and waiting for the Big competition "Module Decoration" thats going to be adjusdged tomorrow.....Phew!!!! Dont miss to watch out this space tomorrow ;);) I will be back with loads of action, drama and stories ofcourse beyond any doubt ...:-)))
It would just be incomplete if I dont wish "A very Happy Valentines Day!!"

May the love that keeps this world going, stay until the Sun disappears, Oceans dry and Stars fly....:-):-) I am sure even if they do, Love will pull and bind them together....!! Yeh Fevvicol se bhi majboot Jod hai, tootegaa nahin..;))

~$,02/14/08, 11:00pm

Friday, December 28, 2007

Adieu 2007..!!

Though its a too early to say this, guess I would not be able to write anything in this space until 2nd Jan :-) In a while I would be leaving to my hometown(Vizag) to celebrate the New year with my family and frens there after 5 years. So hope it turns out to be a special one for me and brings in a change....!!

I have mixed feelings and lots to write about the year that 2007 had been in my life but probably would do that once I am back. As any other year end, I am in a nostalgic self this year too but undoubtedly this year has made me dwindle between two extremes - Tremendous highs and lows.

Yet in a mood filled with nostalgia, I bid farewell to 2007 for it had taught me lifes toughest lessons and yet survive. Guess thats an achievement in itself. I have always watched rather sneaked into my Dad's diary(the amazing writer that he is and he does till date), writing the ending note for an year and welcoming words for the coming one. Today I feel good doing the same thing.Since I am running out of time now, I would wind it up with one nice quote I read today...

May your battles be few, your pleasure many,
your wishes and dreams fulfilled.
At the sound of the tolling midnight bell a brand new year will begin.
Let's raise our hopes in a confidant toast, to the promise it ushers in.


Goodbye my dear 2007...!! Welcome 2008.....:-))


Those who have sneaked into my space now, A very happy New year to YOU!!! :-)
May you find all the choicest colors to fill your canvas of Life this year to make it one of the best pages...!!

~$,12/28/07,8:30pm

Friday, December 14, 2007

$%^&*(%^#$^^

There are so many things in life which are not so pleasing to us. All those feelings and actions that make us bad and nasty but still knowing all that is bad, the human mind tends to do the same. I feel the toughest thing in the world is to tone your mind and heart to the right tune. Hmmm....
There are so many Qs that I sometimes dont find answers for...How certain set of people change overnight? Why that one person in a crowd is so vulnerable and yet the other next is so apathetic?? Why does one get exploited to the core and the other just watches the show.

I really dono what i have been writing for past min but I guess the title says it all as to what mindset I am in for no reason or maybe one...
In all such moments, I reach out to that folder where I had preserved my personal fav songs. Ahhhh.......Thanks to Music that it has such a healing effect that it erases all these Qs and takes us to a state where you stop thinking of stupid Qs like this and makes you feel that life is meant to be light......

Had a very hectic week by all means and not so great end to the day today. Feeling loooot bettter to be living in these moments with Music ON and slowly slipping into sleep and ofcourse hoping to wake up for a bright day...;-))

~$,14/12/07,12:00pm